There's something about your life that you want to change... and you want it changed NOW, right? You have a goal, a dream, a lifestyle change and you want it BADLY and, yet, you aren't getting the job done. Sound familiar? How can you "make" yourself do what you know you NEED to do consistently and …
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Do you see a therapist? I do! There was a time when I wouldn't have been comfortable sharing that. However, after completing most of my MA in Marriage & Family Therapy and with my PhD in Clinical Psychology starting in the next 12 months AND as a woman breadwinners coach, I can tell you one …
I remember the birth of my first child (who's about to be 16 years old next month) like it was yesterday. Montgomery, Alabama... steaming hot weather... me waddling around at 39.5 weeks... exhilarated, scared, and seriously ready to have my body back. When 40 weeks came and went, the doctor made the blessed decision to …
Continue reading What to do when the labor & delivery of your dream stalls… (Read Time: 4 min.)
I experienced secondary infertility at the age of 21. That's not what doctors call it when you're 21. When you're in your 20s, they call it "Ah, you're just fine" or "Oh, give it time" or "Just relax and it'll happen" but they rarely, at 21, call it infertility. Fast-forward four years and I was pregnant …
Do you REALLY love yourself? Not the "I'm okay, you're okay" self esteem movement or the "I LOVE ME!" overly exaggerated, let's-fake-self-love-til-I-feel-self-love self-help technique and sure as hell not the "Once I lose 20 pounds, I'll love myself" future self idealization process. No... you... right where you are... right as you are... right now. Do …
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I'm going in a different direction this week than my blog calendar had originally dictated. That is one of the gifts of being my own boss: I get to call the shots. What I want to dish about today is one of my favorite topics of all time: FOCUS. Women breadwinners traditionally have this in …
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I saw my therapist today and she asked me a question that stumped me: Who's your social support system here in Los Angeles? I didn't know how to answer that question. Other than my husband and my close friends (who all live out of state), I couldn't think of more than one or two people in California …
Continue reading Who’s in Your Inner Circle? (Read Time: 3 min.)
When someone asks you about your marriage, what's your response? Lukewarm? Neutral? Nagging? Resentful? In a time when the divorce rate for all marriages is over 50%, the pressure to make a woman breadwinner marriage work is higher than ever... and the statistics for marital success tell a sad, unfortunate story: In one study in …
Sometimes, someone will call you bossy and it'll be spot on. In that moment, you'll need to take a step back, reflect, and shift. There are other times, however, when someone calls you bossy and it's not an issue of control so much as it's a matter of you standing up for your needs, desires, …
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You run your show. You bring home the bacon. You're the one wearing the pants... and the BOTH of you know it. But, lately, things haven't been easy. There's been tension in the air, things left unsaid, household responsibilities left undone, and outside of talking about bills, birthdays, and chores, there hasn't been much to …
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