“They”… Who are “they” anyway? Even though we don’t seem to be able to answer that question, there are a lot of “they” who seem to be keeping us connected to situations, experiences, and drama that we really don’t need… and you’d think the situation would improve when “they” leave our lives… Quite the contrary.
For many overachieving, highly successful, driven women entrepreneurs, being left feels like a slap in the face, a failure of sorts, something that they don’t know how to rationalize or recover from.
So what do you do when you’ve been left (by a client, fired from a job, walked out on by a spouse, abandoned by a friend, rejected by a family member) physically but are still holding onto the situation emotionally and spiritually?
How do you let go when everything inside you keeps fighting to hold on?
Here’s what you do:
You love it until IT lets YOU go…
Give me a minute here…
There are 3 things about this concept that you want to take hold of:
- What’s for you won’t pass you by. If that client, job, career, or relationship had REALLY been for you, it would’ve stayed and it would’ve produced good fruit. Anything that stays in your life but brings you down or leaves your life and leaves you feeling low is NOT something that is meant for you. When you truly get this understanding, you allow things to be what they are without feeling the need to push boulders uphill or go kicking and screaming into the night. You love what is, you accept what is and, as things unfold, you embrace the adventure of it. That doesn’t mean the pain goes away; it simply means you’re unwilling to magnify it.
- Go with the season you’re in. There are seasons and reasons to everything. Rather than fighting the season you’re in, flow with it. Allow there to be the natural ups and downs that come with life. Embrace them. Remember: you NEVER have to chase what’s for you. It will come on its own. What’s not for you will leave on its own. You don’t have to control anything to usher in what’s for you. You do, however, have to be open and aware of what season you’re in. Be present in THIS season and allow it to unfold as it needs to. The key here is trust: trust in yourself, trust in the process, and trust in the timing of your life. If you don’t have trust, you will cling and grasp and lose everything you are trying to hold onto…
- You won’t get more until you stop giving space to less. There will be no room in your life to receive what you REALLY want if you continue to hold onto the things, people, and experiences that are far below what you deserve. The scarcity associated with clinging to anything because you’re afraid of having nothing is a painful way to live. The second you begin to trust and know that better is ALWAYS on its way is the second you start to let things go with ease. Why? Because you understand it takes the act of faith of opening up space in your life to receive and embrace better in your world. #BOOM
If you (like so many of us) have trouble letting go, join me for a 4 week online course in December: Love it Til It Lets You Go- How to Surrender the People, Places and Things that are Meant to Leave Your Life.
Click HERE to sign up!
It starts December 5th.
Space is limited!
P.S. Listen to the latest episode of She Runs The Show.
I talk about this exact issue- how to love and let things go.
Click HERE to listen.